5 Bad Habits to Kick: Self Love Edition

As a “bigger girl” I have always had self-love issues. I would constantly make fun of the way I looked so that others couldn’t do it first. My excuse for everything was “because I’m fat”. I would always wear black and I never really believed in myself. All of that stops now. I have been going through a lot of changes recently and have decided that it’s time to love myself first. I need to kick those old self-hate habits. This is going to be tough at first, I know, but it has to be done. If you are someone that needs a little wake-up call, then this post is for you. I hope that you can relate to some of the things that I am going through, and change them with me.

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  1. I am going to stop feeling bad for being my size. How can I expect anyone to love me if I don’t love myself for how I look?
  2. I am ditching the clothes that make me look “skinny”. Today is the day that I am going to strut my stuff in whatever I feel like. I have recently purchased a few crop tops that I never thought that I could ever wear as a “fat girl”. Guess what? I don’t give a fuck anymore. I look gorgeous no matter what.
  3. I am going to stop telling myself that I can’t do something because of my size. I can do anything that I put my mind to. I just have to want it.
  4. I am going to stop making fat jokes about myself. I am hurting myself more than anyone. It’s not healthy, especially when I start to believe that the jokes are true.
  5. I am going to stop caring about what others think of me. I am going to start living and enjoying my time on this Earth. There are a million other things that I can be doing with my time, and I need to stop wasting them on being self-conscious about myself.
Loving myself is the first step to happiness.
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How to Practice Self-Care

Self-care is something that I have always struggled with. I have always been one to work constantly, keep moving, and get everything done. I would make myself sick because I would not take a break. As I got older, I realized that if I keep going without taking a break, I’m going to work myself to death. On this new journey of mine, I have practiced self-care and love it! If you keep reading, you will discover my self- care habits.

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1. Take the day off

If I know that I have been going non-stop and don’t want to get up for the day, that means that it’s time to take a day off.

2. Turn on my favorite music

I don’t know about you, but music always helps me to escape this crazy reality. 90’s country is the way to go for me.

3. Take a hot shower

A nice, hot shower can calm any day for me. I can stand there for hours just relaxing and thinking.

Put on a face mask

I don’t know what it is about face mask, but they scream relaxation. Sheet masks are my favorite for self-care days.

Turn my phone off

No phone, no distractions.

Go get a pedicure

I love to let someone take care of me for a change.

Go Shopping

A little retail therapy never hurt anyone! Torrid and Forever 21, I am coming for you!

Go see a movie

This helps me escape from the real world and forget about everything that is stressing me out.

Exercise

Exercising can also be another way to clear my brain.

Go to the beach

Some days I like to just get up and drive to the beach. I am at the edge of the world and the stress stays in Bakersfield.

Stop Apologizing: Love Yourself

 

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“Oh, I’m sorry.” 

Wait……. Why am I sorry? That person bumped into me. 

“I’m sorry.” 

Why did I just apologize for laughing? That person is laughing too. 

 

I do this all of the time and if you don’t know what I am talking about, I am talking about the fact that I apologize for being me. I can’t help myself and it’s a very bad habit. I can’t be the only person that does this. I recently made a promise to myself that I am no longer going to apologize for being me. I’m going to start living my best life and stop second guessing myself. I’m going to laugh however I want, I’m going to walk freely, I’m going to smile if I want to. I have a right to be on this earth, just as much as anyone else. Apologizing for everything that I do is something that I do as an insecurity. If I apologize, that means that I am lesser than the person that I am apologizing to. I know that I am not any less than that person. I am a human being that has emotions, I am a human being that walks down a street, and I am a human being that compliments something that I like. If you are like me and apologize for something that you didn’t need to apologize for, I want you to stand with me and stop apologizing. Tell yourself that you’re allowed to laugh, you’re allowed to breathe, and you’re allowed to be yourself. Promise yourself that you are going to stop saying sorry for no reason.

 

I would like a friend of mine for inspiring this blog post (you know who you are).

 

Photos were taken by Kaya Irene Photography

My dress is from Torrid