5 Inspirational Audio Books That I am Loving

Here are just a few inspirational books that have been getting me through some tough times. I hope that they can help inspire you as well.

 

 

 

Enjoy!

 

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5 Bad Habits to Kick: Self Love Edition

As a “bigger girl” I have always had self-love issues. I would constantly make fun of the way I looked so that others couldn’t do it first. My excuse for everything was “because I’m fat”. I would always wear black and I never really believed in myself. All of that stops now. I have been going through a lot of changes recently and have decided that it’s time to love myself first. I need to kick those old self-hate habits. This is going to be tough at first, I know, but it has to be done. If you are someone that needs a little wake-up call, then this post is for you. I hope that you can relate to some of the things that I am going through, and change them with me.

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  1. I am going to stop feeling bad for being my size. How can I expect anyone to love me if I don’t love myself for how I look?
  2. I am ditching the clothes that make me look “skinny”. Today is the day that I am going to strut my stuff in whatever I feel like. I have recently purchased a few crop tops that I never thought that I could ever wear as a “fat girl”. Guess what? I don’t give a fuck anymore. I look gorgeous no matter what.
  3. I am going to stop telling myself that I can’t do something because of my size. I can do anything that I put my mind to. I just have to want it.
  4. I am going to stop making fat jokes about myself. I am hurting myself more than anyone. It’s not healthy, especially when I start to believe that the jokes are true.
  5. I am going to stop caring about what others think of me. I am going to start living and enjoying my time on this Earth. There are a million other things that I can be doing with my time, and I need to stop wasting them on being self-conscious about myself.
Loving myself is the first step to happiness.

How to Practice Self-Care

Self-care is something that I have always struggled with. I have always been one to work constantly, keep moving, and get everything done. I would make myself sick because I would not take a break. As I got older, I realized that if I keep going without taking a break, I’m going to work myself to death. On this new journey of mine, I have practiced self-care and love it! If you keep reading, you will discover my self- care habits.

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1. Take the day off

If I know that I have been going non-stop and don’t want to get up for the day, that means that it’s time to take a day off.

2. Turn on my favorite music

I don’t know about you, but music always helps me to escape this crazy reality. 90’s country is the way to go for me.

3. Take a hot shower

A nice, hot shower can calm any day for me. I can stand there for hours just relaxing and thinking.

Put on a face mask

I don’t know what it is about face mask, but they scream relaxation. Sheet masks are my favorite for self-care days.

Turn my phone off

No phone, no distractions.

Go get a pedicure

I love to let someone take care of me for a change.

Go Shopping

A little retail therapy never hurt anyone! Torrid and Forever 21, I am coming for you!

Go see a movie

This helps me escape from the real world and forget about everything that is stressing me out.

Exercise

Exercising can also be another way to clear my brain.

Go to the beach

Some days I like to just get up and drive to the beach. I am at the edge of the world and the stress stays in Bakersfield.

Father’s Day: Meet my Dad​

The thought of this post getting out there for everyone to read it just scares the hell out of me, but that is exactly why I am posting it. For those of you that have a complicated relationship with your dad. In honor of Father’s Day, I felt the need to share a little more of my personal life with you. I know that most of you follow my blog for the fact that I am a plus size woman that loves fashion. Or the fact that I write a lot of boss babe inspired posts, but today I want to share more with you than just my favorite dress at the moment. I want to share a big part of my story with you. I hope that you are ready because, to be honest, I may not be.

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This is my favorite and one of the few photos that I have with me and my dad together. Meet my dad, David, a hard working man that lost his life too soon. I don’t even know where to begin.

My dad and I haven’t always been the closest. He got my mom pregnant at a young age and then left her while she was pregnant to join the Navy. I know that it sounds horrible because it was, but the truth is that he wasn’t ready to be a father. He was in and out of most of my life, he made me cry, and made me feel like he didn’t love me. He missed father-daughter dances, he missed all of the football games that I cheered at, he even missed my high school graduation. I can count every single fight that we got into, I couldn’t understand why I wasn’t good enough for him to want to always be around me. Some may say that he was not the best father, but I can’t say that it was his fault, not entirely. When someone wasn’t taught how to love another person, how can you expect them to love you?

When I did get to see my dad, we always had an amazing time. He took me to the San Diego Zoo, I got to go on his boat, and he even took me ice skating. When he wanted to be, he was the best dad that a girl could ever ask for. I can remember every single moment that I got to spend with him growing up. Him not being around all of the time, made the moments that we did get to spend together even more special.

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As I got older I started to accept the fact that he wasn’t always around, but once I accepted it, we became closer. He taught me to always be humble, to be thankful, and to be strong. A big part of who I am today is thanks to him. Him not being around showed me that I am strong. I am able to take care of myself in the worst situations. I don’t need anyone to depend on, and if I want something in life, I have to get it myself. He also taught me to not take things for granted, he is proof that people are not going to be around forever.

September of this year will be five years that my dad has been gone. Once again; he wasn’t there to give me away at my wedding, he isn’t going to be there when his grandchildren are born, and he will miss their high school graduation. It hurts to say that out loud, but it’s the truth. Dad’s are blessings, mine was a blessing in disguise.

I want to thank my dad for everything that he has done for me. He may not have even known what he has done, but he has helped me out tremendously. For those of you that have a weird relationship with your dad, try to see the good in what he is teaching you by not being around, or by being too harsh on you. Do me a favor, make sure that you tell your dad that you love him today. Even if you have to write him a letter and throw it away, he won’t be around forever.

5 Tips for Bloggers Taking Photos in Public

As a blogger in a city that isn’t Los Angeles, I get a lot of weird looks from people when I am taking blog photos in public. When I first started blogging, those look from people would bother me so bad, I wanted to stop taking photos and go home. Now I could care less about what people think of me, especially when I am posing to get that perfect shot. In this post, I am going to share 5 tips on how to feel more comfortable when it comes to taking photos in public. If you are someone that is a beast when it comes to taking photos in public, then congrats, you’re winning at life. IMG_5577 2IMG_5578IMG_5584IMG_5590IMG_5591 

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My first tip is to remember that you most likely won’t ever see the people that are staring at you again. If you ever happen to run into them on another day, there is a good chance that they are not going to remember you.

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Take someone with you that you are comfortable around. With them encouraging you, it makes it that much easier to smile, take a great photo, and have an amazing time.

Tip #3

Try to start out somewhere that doesn’t have a ton of people, but still in public. For example, go to a park to take some photos, compared to a coffee shop downtown. Ease your way into it.

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Practice makes perfect! The more that you go out in public and take photos, the more comfortable you will feel.

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My last tip is just to have fun! Remeber that you are taking these photos for you and your audience. You’re not taking them for the random person walking by. You are obviously passionate about these photos, so anyone else’s opinion shouldn’t matter, so just have fun!

I hope that these tips helped you out a little. I would love to know any tips that you have, leave them in the comment section! 

 

All photos were taken by Kaya Irene Photography

My dress is from Forever 21

Bloggers Looking for Collaborations!

As a blogger, I don’t always have the money to fork out to try a new product. I spend my money on bills and other important stuff that I usually forget about in a month. If you are a blogger that is just getting started, or an Instagrammer looking for collaborations, I have discovered a new app that I think you will love.

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I don’t remember where I saw the add for this app, but I am glad that I did. Muses App is a community of bloggers and companies looking for people to collaborate with. Not only can you receive product for posts, but some of the opportunities are paid! You can search through tons of different collaborations and choose the ones that better fit you and your audience.

This app is also great for those that are looking to grow their platform followers. You can connect and meet with other Muses around the world, or right in your very own town. I bet that you are super excited and are going to download it now. Well if you are, I will make it easier for you. Click here to get started collaborating! I think that you are going to love this app just as much as I do. When you download it, make sure that you add me as a favorite!

Wedding Wednesday: Reasons to Hire a Planner

Ah, welcome to another Wedding Wednesday. I hope that you are enjoying these posts because I am having the best time writing them! Today I want to give you a few reasons why you should hire a wedding planner and/ or coordinator. This post is in collaboration with my Aunt Cindy, she created these visuals for me to share! 

 

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There you have it! If you are in Bakersfield, Ca and are looking for some planners, make sure to check us out on Instagram.