5 Bad Habits to Kick: Self Love Edition

As a “bigger girl” I have always had self-love issues. I would constantly make fun of the way I looked so that others couldn’t do it first. My excuse for everything was “because I’m fat”. I would always wear black and I never really believed in myself. All of that stops now. I have been going through a lot of changes recently and have decided that it’s time to love myself first. I need to kick those old self-hate habits. This is going to be tough at first, I know, but it has to be done. If you are someone that needs a little wake-up call, then this post is for you. I hope that you can relate to some of the things that I am going through, and change them with me.

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  1. I am going to stop feeling bad for being my size. How can I expect anyone to love me if I don’t love myself for how I look?
  2. I am ditching the clothes that make me look “skinny”. Today is the day that I am going to strut my stuff in whatever I feel like. I have recently purchased a few crop tops that I never thought that I could ever wear as a “fat girl”. Guess what? I don’t give a fuck anymore. I look gorgeous no matter what.
  3. I am going to stop telling myself that I can’t do something because of my size. I can do anything that I put my mind to. I just have to want it.
  4. I am going to stop making fat jokes about myself. I am hurting myself more than anyone. It’s not healthy, especially when I start to believe that the jokes are true.
  5. I am going to stop caring about what others think of me. I am going to start living and enjoying my time on this Earth. There are a million other things that I can be doing with my time, and I need to stop wasting them on being self-conscious about myself.
Loving myself is the first step to happiness.
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5 Best Blogger Investments

I have been blogging for a little over three years now and I have put a little money in behind the scenes. If you are a new blogger, I wouldn’t recommend going out and dropping a lot of money, especially since you don’t know if blogging is something that you are going to continue doing. If you are serious about blogging, then these are a few things that I have found to make blogging easier. Enjoy!
  1. Ring Light- a ring light is perfect for the cute flat lays that you see all over Instagram.
  2. Theme- If you want your blog to have personality, purchase a theme that fits your aesthetic.
  3. Smart Phone- If you don’t already have a phone with a good camera, you need on in your life. 99.99% of the time, I am taking photos, writing blog posts, and taking notes on my iPhone 8 plus. Just saying, these devices are worth it in the blogging world.
  4. Custom Domain- This makes you look professional and makes it easier for your audience to find you!
  5. Grammarly- Although there is a free version, the premium version helps improve your vocabulary.
There you have it! My 5 investments as a blogger. Do you have any favorites? I need to do some more investing. I hope that this helped.

How to Practice Self-Care

Self-care is something that I have always struggled with. I have always been one to work constantly, keep moving, and get everything done. I would make myself sick because I would not take a break. As I got older, I realized that if I keep going without taking a break, I’m going to work myself to death. On this new journey of mine, I have practiced self-care and love it! If you keep reading, you will discover my self- care habits.

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1. Take the day off

If I know that I have been going non-stop and don’t want to get up for the day, that means that it’s time to take a day off.

2. Turn on my favorite music

I don’t know about you, but music always helps me to escape this crazy reality. 90’s country is the way to go for me.

3. Take a hot shower

A nice, hot shower can calm any day for me. I can stand there for hours just relaxing and thinking.

Put on a face mask

I don’t know what it is about face mask, but they scream relaxation. Sheet masks are my favorite for self-care days.

Turn my phone off

No phone, no distractions.

Go get a pedicure

I love to let someone take care of me for a change.

Go Shopping

A little retail therapy never hurt anyone! Torrid and Forever 21, I am coming for you!

Go see a movie

This helps me escape from the real world and forget about everything that is stressing me out.

Exercise

Exercising can also be another way to clear my brain.

Go to the beach

Some days I like to just get up and drive to the beach. I am at the edge of the world and the stress stays in Bakersfield.

5 Tips for Bloggers Taking Photos in Public

As a blogger in a city that isn’t Los Angeles, I get a lot of weird looks from people when I am taking blog photos in public. When I first started blogging, those look from people would bother me so bad, I wanted to stop taking photos and go home. Now I could care less about what people think of me, especially when I am posing to get that perfect shot. In this post, I am going to share 5 tips on how to feel more comfortable when it comes to taking photos in public. If you are someone that is a beast when it comes to taking photos in public, then congrats, you’re winning at life. IMG_5577 2IMG_5578IMG_5584IMG_5590IMG_5591 

Tip #1

My first tip is to remember that you most likely won’t ever see the people that are staring at you again. If you ever happen to run into them on another day, there is a good chance that they are not going to remember you.

Tip #2

Take someone with you that you are comfortable around. With them encouraging you, it makes it that much easier to smile, take a great photo, and have an amazing time.

Tip #3

Try to start out somewhere that doesn’t have a ton of people, but still in public. For example, go to a park to take some photos, compared to a coffee shop downtown. Ease your way into it.

Tip #4

Practice makes perfect! The more that you go out in public and take photos, the more comfortable you will feel.

Tip #5

My last tip is just to have fun! Remeber that you are taking these photos for you and your audience. You’re not taking them for the random person walking by. You are obviously passionate about these photos, so anyone else’s opinion shouldn’t matter, so just have fun!

I hope that these tips helped you out a little. I would love to know any tips that you have, leave them in the comment section! 

 

All photos were taken by Kaya Irene Photography

My dress is from Forever 21

Bloggers Looking for Collaborations!

As a blogger, I don’t always have the money to fork out to try a new product. I spend my money on bills and other important stuff that I usually forget about in a month. If you are a blogger that is just getting started, or an Instagrammer looking for collaborations, I have discovered a new app that I think you will love.

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I don’t remember where I saw the add for this app, but I am glad that I did. Muses App is a community of bloggers and companies looking for people to collaborate with. Not only can you receive product for posts, but some of the opportunities are paid! You can search through tons of different collaborations and choose the ones that better fit you and your audience.

This app is also great for those that are looking to grow their platform followers. You can connect and meet with other Muses around the world, or right in your very own town. I bet that you are super excited and are going to download it now. Well if you are, I will make it easier for you. Click here to get started collaborating! I think that you are going to love this app just as much as I do. When you download it, make sure that you add me as a favorite!

10 Tips for New Bloggers

The number one question that I get asked is “I am starting a blog, do you have any tips for me?”. The answer is yes I do! I have been blogging for almost four years now and have learned some things along the way.

Continue reading to get my blogging tips! Make sure that you are following my blog for more posts like this!

 

  1. The first tip that I have for anyone, is to make sure that you choose a topic that you love. Blogging takes a lot of time and effort, so you want to make sure that you are enjoying the time that you invest in.
  2. Tip number two is to make blogging friends! Connecting with people can be very helpful, they can share advice and you can share your advice with them! There are so many different opportunities that can come out of just being genuine friends.
  3. Number three, stay consistent. I am sure that this tip doesn’t just apply to blogging. If you are trying to gain your Instagram following, YouTube channel, or anything else, you must stay consistent.
  4. Don’t be afraid to try new things. Blogging has pushed me outside of a box that I didn’t even realize that I was in. Taking photos in public use to terrify me! Now I can give two fucks if people are looking at me weird. They are never going to see me again.
  5. Use the resources that are given. Take advantage of hashtags, tags, and sharing! Try sharing your blog posts on Facebook, Instagram, and Pinterest.
  6. Just like YouTube, titles are important. Make sure that the titles are going to catch your reader’s attention.
  7. Add pretty photos, readers like visuals.
  8. Scheduling blog posts ahead of time is a great way to save time.
  9. Collaborate with other bloggers. This helps to grow your blog following and introduces your blog to a whole new audience.
  10. Remember to have fun! Don’t feel like you have to write posts, it’s going to take the fun out of blogging and you will get burnt out. Blog when you want to and mix it up every now and again.