5 Bad Habits to Kick: Self Love Edition

As a “bigger girl” I have always had self-love issues. I would constantly make fun of the way I looked so that others couldn’t do it first. My excuse for everything was “because I’m fat”. I would always wear black and I never really believed in myself. All of that stops now. I have been going through a lot of changes recently and have decided that it’s time to love myself first. I need to kick those old self-hate habits. This is going to be tough at first, I know, but it has to be done. If you are someone that needs a little wake-up call, then this post is for you. I hope that you can relate to some of the things that I am going through, and change them with me.

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  1. I am going to stop feeling bad for being my size. How can I expect anyone to love me if I don’t love myself for how I look?
  2. I am ditching the clothes that make me look “skinny”. Today is the day that I am going to strut my stuff in whatever I feel like. I have recently purchased a few crop tops that I never thought that I could ever wear as a “fat girl”. Guess what? I don’t give a fuck anymore. I look gorgeous no matter what.
  3. I am going to stop telling myself that I can’t do something because of my size. I can do anything that I put my mind to. I just have to want it.
  4. I am going to stop making fat jokes about myself. I am hurting myself more than anyone. It’s not healthy, especially when I start to believe that the jokes are true.
  5. I am going to stop caring about what others think of me. I am going to start living and enjoying my time on this Earth. There are a million other things that I can be doing with my time, and I need to stop wasting them on being self-conscious about myself.
Loving myself is the first step to happiness.
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5 Best Blogger Investments

I have been blogging for a little over three years now and I have put a little money in behind the scenes. If you are a new blogger, I wouldn’t recommend going out and dropping a lot of money, especially since you don’t know if blogging is something that you are going to continue doing. If you are serious about blogging, then these are a few things that I have found to make blogging easier. Enjoy!
  1. Ring Light- a ring light is perfect for the cute flat lays that you see all over Instagram.
  2. Theme- If you want your blog to have personality, purchase a theme that fits your aesthetic.
  3. Smart Phone- If you don’t already have a phone with a good camera, you need on in your life. 99.99% of the time, I am taking photos, writing blog posts, and taking notes on my iPhone 8 plus. Just saying, these devices are worth it in the blogging world.
  4. Custom Domain- This makes you look professional and makes it easier for your audience to find you!
  5. Grammarly- Although there is a free version, the premium version helps improve your vocabulary.
There you have it! My 5 investments as a blogger. Do you have any favorites? I need to do some more investing. I hope that this helped.

10 Tips for New Bloggers

The number one question that I get asked is “I am starting a blog, do you have any tips for me?”. The answer is yes I do! I have been blogging for almost four years now and have learned some things along the way.

Continue reading to get my blogging tips! Make sure that you are following my blog for more posts like this!

 

  1. The first tip that I have for anyone, is to make sure that you choose a topic that you love. Blogging takes a lot of time and effort, so you want to make sure that you are enjoying the time that you invest in.
  2. Tip number two is to make blogging friends! Connecting with people can be very helpful, they can share advice and you can share your advice with them! There are so many different opportunities that can come out of just being genuine friends.
  3. Number three, stay consistent. I am sure that this tip doesn’t just apply to blogging. If you are trying to gain your Instagram following, YouTube channel, or anything else, you must stay consistent.
  4. Don’t be afraid to try new things. Blogging has pushed me outside of a box that I didn’t even realize that I was in. Taking photos in public use to terrify me! Now I can give two fucks if people are looking at me weird. They are never going to see me again.
  5. Use the resources that are given. Take advantage of hashtags, tags, and sharing! Try sharing your blog posts on Facebook, Instagram, and Pinterest.
  6. Just like YouTube, titles are important. Make sure that the titles are going to catch your reader’s attention.
  7. Add pretty photos, readers like visuals.
  8. Scheduling blog posts ahead of time is a great way to save time.
  9. Collaborate with other bloggers. This helps to grow your blog following and introduces your blog to a whole new audience.
  10. Remember to have fun! Don’t feel like you have to write posts, it’s going to take the fun out of blogging and you will get burnt out. Blog when you want to and mix it up every now and again.

Motivational Monday: Don’t Quit Your Daydream!

I cannot tell you how long that I have been dreaming about the day that I would quit my full-time job, just to focus on my passion! For the longest time, I didn’t even know that I had a passion. It took a ton of dumb Facebook career quizzes and countless talks with my family members, to finally realize that I was not destined to have a typical career. I was born to be a hustler, others would call it an entrepreneur.

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(I found this photo on Pinterest and fell in love. Credit to the owner.)

Back in 2012, I decided to take my last Facebook career quiz. The result led me to where I am today and where I am going to be in the future. In 2016 I signed up for an event and wedding planning course and I couldn’t be happier with my decision. I studied hard and in just six short months, I received my event and wedding planning certificate.

During that time I also discovered another love of mine, blogging. I bought a ring light, a few backdrops, and put in work! I created makeup looks, talked about my beauty favorites, and wrote “What’s in my bag” posts. Since then I have transformed into more fashion, lifestyle, and wedding posts. Hens, certified wedding planner. Eventually blogging led me to Instagram, and who knows where I am headed next.

What I am trying to get at here is that not everyone was born to do the same job. If everyone became a teacher, there would be no doctors. If everyone went for the same career path, life would be boring as hell. It’s okay to step out of the box. I understand that not everyone is going to agree with what I do and I am perfectly okay with that. As long I believe in myself, that is all that I need, (aside from my husband’s support).

As of April 13, 2018, I am no longer working at my Monday through Friday job. I am now a full-time entrepreneur.  That means that I am my own boss, working hard, and proving to myself that I was born to do this. If you ask anyone that knows me, they will tell you that I am not your average 25-year old. I am creative, crafty, and love doing something different every day.

This is just my friendly reminder to live for yourself. Life is too short to live your life wondering “what if?”. Do something that you love and don’t worry about what others are going to say or think. You might just surprise yourself. Hold on to that daydream until you get there, I know that I did.

Soon enough, you are going to see me on the Today Show, telling the world about this exact moment. The moment that I decided to quit my day job to chase my dream job. 

Wedding Wednesday: What is more important to you?

Oh my, May is knocking at the door! I can hear the wedding songs, fireworks, and babies screaming because they don’t want to smile. Today’s Wedding Wednesday is all about how important a service is to you.

Kelsey, what do you mean? Everything about my wedding is important to me. 

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Hear me out and by the end of this post, you may see a different perspective, and save yourself some big bucks.

When you picture the wedding of your dreams, what is the first thing that you envision? Is it a beautiful gown? What about the best photographer in town? When working with a budget, you want to make sure that you have money for the things that are the most important to you.

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Here is an example; music is everything to me, I live and breath for music. So having the perfect DJ to play my perfect wedding songs was a must. Something else that was very important to me was the photographer. I am going to see and share those picture for the rest of my life. So guess what I spent good money on? If you guessed the DJ and photographer, then you would be right.

With that being said, I saved money by not having a videographer, because I had a photographer. I saved a ton of money on a venue because we got married outside.  I also saved money on food because my family made it. There are a ton of different examples that I could share with you, but we would be here all day.

So make a list of what you HAVE to have at the wedding and spend your money on that. 

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How to turn a bad day into a good day!

I’m sure that you have had one of those days before when you wake up and everything goes wrong. As soon as you open those big, beautiful eyes, you can already tell that everything is going to shit. You woke up late, you burnt your forehead on your hair straightener, and now you can’t find your keys. I have one of those days about twice a week, trust me, you’re not alone!

Instead of letting that day continue to go horribly, here are some things that you can do to change the way your day is going to go.

The first thing that you can do is take a deep breath. Bring your thoughts to your attention and tell yourself that you are going to have an amazing day. Or cry….. Whatever helps. I’m just kidding, but stop and give yourself a minute to forget about all of those terrible events and think of something that makes you happy.

The next thing that you can do to change your day is to go somewhere that makes you happy. If you are at work, take a break and go get some coffee. If coffee isn’t your thing, go do something that is your thing. Grab a cupcake, go for a walk, take some selfies, whatever you need to do to make yourself feel a little better.

If those aren’t doing the trick, read your favorite quote. Read something that will put a smile on your face. If you don’t have a favorite quote, go to Pinterest, they have tons for you!

If you have tried all of the above and nothing seems to be working, call someone that you love. Just let it all pour out to them. If no one will answer, message me, I’ll pick up! 

Winter Night Routine

The mall is playing Christmas music, it’s cold outside, and there are Christmas lights all around! I love the holidays! This is a time for family, friends, and loved ones. To celebrate these cold, wonderful times, I am sharing my winter night routine with you. You might want to stay tuned until the end, there will be a GIVEAWAY!

 

I don’t know about you, but as soon as I walk through the door, I like to throw my hair in a bun and change into some comfy clothes. After that, my night can begin! Now that the chill nights are upon us, I love to make myself a nice cup of hot chocolate, with extra marshmallows! I will also plug the lights in on both Christmas trees. Yes, we have two trees, don’t judge us (haha).

 

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There is nothing like lighting a candle when I get home from a long day. It just makes the house that much cozier! A good Christmas movie is a must for me during the holiday season, on this particular night I watched Elf and enjoyed my yummy hot chocolate.

 

After drinking my hot chocolate, it’s time to clean and whiten my teeth. I have been using Smile Brilliant for about 6 months now and I will not use anything else!  I will first go in with the whitening gel. While that is doing its job, I will work on some blog posts, edit some photos, take a look at my emails, and check to see if I have any Poshmark orders!

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Times up! Now for the desensitizing gel, I hate when my teeth get sensitive, Smile Brilliant makes sure that sensitive teeth aren’t an option. Check out this article all about tooth sensitivity.

If you are still wondering what Smile Brilliant is, let me shed some light on you. They are an amazing at home teeth whitening company and they offer custom fitted, teeth whitening trays! If you need to do a little more research, please be my guest. Here are some testimonials from customers. Enjoy!

Now that my teeth are cleaned and fresh; I will lay in my bed, read a book, or play on my phone until I fall asleep. What does your night time routine look like?img_8705 2-1

Do you remember at the beginning of this post when I said that I have a giveaway for you? Well, here it is: you will have the chance to receive a $139 credit to Smile Brilliant! They have been so kind and are giving you a chance to win! All you have to do is click on the link below and enter! The giveaway will end in two weeks, so make sure that you enter!

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This giveaway is open to the United States, United Kingdom, Canada, and Australia. If you are just so excited and need to try this product now, you can use the code bakersfieldbeautyblogger15 to receive %15 off storewide. How does that sound? Amazing, I know.

I would like to thank Smile Brilliant for sponsoring this post, you are seriously the best!