Father’s Day: Meet my Dad​

The thought of this post getting out there for everyone to read it just scares the hell out of me, but that is exactly why I am posting it. For those of you that have a complicated relationship with your dad. In honor of Father’s Day, I felt the need to share a little more of my personal life with you. I know that most of you follow my blog for the fact that I am a plus size woman that loves fashion. Or the fact that I write a lot of boss babe inspired posts, but today I want to share more with you than just my favorite dress at the moment. I want to share a big part of my story with you. I hope that you are ready because, to be honest, I may not be.

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This is my favorite and one of the few photos that I have with me and my dad together. Meet my dad, David, a hard working man that lost his life too soon. I don’t even know where to begin.

My dad and I haven’t always been the closest. He got my mom pregnant at a young age and then left her while she was pregnant to join the Navy. I know that it sounds horrible because it was, but the truth is that he wasn’t ready to be a father. He was in and out of most of my life, he made me cry, and made me feel like he didn’t love me. He missed father-daughter dances, he missed all of the football games that I cheered at, he even missed my high school graduation. I can count every single fight that we got into, I couldn’t understand why I wasn’t good enough for him to want to always be around me. Some may say that he was not the best father, but I can’t say that it was his fault, not entirely. When someone wasn’t taught how to love another person, how can you expect them to love you?

When I did get to see my dad, we always had an amazing time. He took me to the San Diego Zoo, I got to go on his boat, and he even took me ice skating. When he wanted to be, he was the best dad that a girl could ever ask for. I can remember every single moment that I got to spend with him growing up. Him not being around all of the time, made the moments that we did get to spend together even more special.

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As I got older I started to accept the fact that he wasn’t always around, but once I accepted it, we became closer. He taught me to always be humble, to be thankful, and to be strong. A big part of who I am today is thanks to him. Him not being around showed me that I am strong. I am able to take care of myself in the worst situations. I don’t need anyone to depend on, and if I want something in life, I have to get it myself. He also taught me to not take things for granted, he is proof that people are not going to be around forever.

September of this year will be five years that my dad has been gone. Once again; he wasn’t there to give me away at my wedding, he isn’t going to be there when his grandchildren are born, and he will miss their high school graduation. It hurts to say that out loud, but it’s the truth. Dad’s are blessings, mine was a blessing in disguise.

I want to thank my dad for everything that he has done for me. He may not have even known what he has done, but he has helped me out tremendously. For those of you that have a weird relationship with your dad, try to see the good in what he is teaching you by not being around, or by being too harsh on you. Do me a favor, make sure that you tell your dad that you love him today. Even if you have to write him a letter and throw it away, he won’t be around forever.

Wedding Wednesday: Reasons to Hire a Planner

Ah, welcome to another Wedding Wednesday. I hope that you are enjoying these posts because I am having the best time writing them! Today I want to give you a few reasons why you should hire a wedding planner and/ or coordinator. This post is in collaboration with my Aunt Cindy, she created these visuals for me to share! 

 

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There you have it! If you are in Bakersfield, Ca and are looking for some planners, make sure to check us out on Instagram. 

 

How to Set Goals in 2018

The most rewarding thing about running a blog is that I can write whatever I am the most passionate about. Do you know what that is for me? If you said, goals and positivity, then you would be right.

I can’t describe the feeling exactly, but I can give it a shot. Setting goals for me is like my boss just walked in, and told me that I have a month off of work. Paid. Yea, let that one sink in just a bit. I don’t know what I would do without setting goals, and holding myself responsible for reaching those achievements.

I know that I have done achievement posts in the past, but I have a good feeling about this one. The new year is almost here and I need to make sure that I am prepped for all of the amazing opportunities that I am going to give myself. So grab a cup of tea, shit is about to get real.

I am sure that you have heard this one thousand times before, but this year is going to count. I feel major changes coming and with these goals, they are going to come to life!

– My 2018 Achievements-

January: 

  • Start an Event and Wedding Planning blog
  • Look into Social Media Marketing for local companies
  • Collaborate with different photographers
  • Collaborate with a major brand
  • My blog has grown by 100 followers

February:

  • Host my first blogger meet up
  • Collaborate with a major brand
  • Be a guest on a podcast
  • Plan a wedding for a client

March: 

  • My Instagram has gained 1,000 followers
  • I have launched a podcast
  • I upload videos on YouTube regularly
  • I have gained a social media marketing client

April: 

  • My podcast has hit 100 listeners
  • I have collaborated with a local boutique for my blog
  • I have gone on three hikes
  • My hair is down to the middle of my back
  • I have tried every local coffee shop in Bakersfield

May: 

  • I have started writing a book
  • I have collaborated with a company to create an apparel line
  • I have met some of my favorite bloggers
  • My blog has gained 500 more followers
  • I went on a cruise

June: 

  • I have turned all of my side businesses into a full-time job
  • I love my life and everyone in my life
  • I surround myself with positive people

Here is where I am going to stop. If you would like to read the rest of my year accomplishments, you are just going to have to follow along on my blog! Part two will be coming sooner than you think!

10 Must Follow Instagram Accounts

I am not sure if it’s the double taps, or the fact that the layouts are so intriguing, but everyone seems to be infatuated Instagram (including myself). I am constantly on the popular page just looking for new accounts to stalk.

You really loved when I posted all about my favorite bloggers to follow, so I thought that I would do a spin off post from that. Today I have 10 Must Follow Instagram Accounts for you. If you already follow some of these people, we are that much closer to becoming besties.

Number Ten

@lady0lson

Number Nine

@paigealiciabeauty

Number Eight

@aspyovard

Number Seven

@Stephyoungphoto

Number Six

@Oliviarink

Number Five

@Alishamarie

Number Four

@newdarlings

Number Three

@Amrezy

Number Two

@Learningtobefearless

Number One

@Bakersfielbeautyblogger

Starting an Event and Wedding Planning Business: Loving Plans

We are at the time of the year where love is in the air and weddings are everywhere!

If you don’t already know, your girl here has her own event and wedding planning business. That’s right, I know, cool huh? I knew that I wanted to become a party planner the day that I took one of those silly little career quizzes’s on Facebook. Turns out, it was right about me. Taking that silly little test was one of the best things that I could have ever done. I now own a small, local event and wedding planning business. Loving Plans is growing every single day.

Today’s blog post is going to be all about starting an event and wedding planning business. When I first started to look into starting Loving Plans, I had no idea where to start or what to do. I don’t want that to be you, I want you to go into this with at least some knowledge of what to expect. So, enough procrastinating, let’s get your business started!

First things first, before you start your business, make sure that event and wedding planning is something that you are passionate about. Yes, it is fun, but there is a lot behind the scenes that not a lot of people know quizzes. It’s not all glam and easy. There is a lot of sweat and hard work that goes into this business. Just something to keep in mind.

Now on to the good stuff!

When starting a party planning business, you have a couple of options. You can either take an online course to learn everything, or you can intern at local wedding planning businesses. Whatever floats your boat, I took an online course through U.S Career Institute. It was a go at your own pace course, it was an easy read, and the quizzes were perfect. If you can’t afford the course all at once, they do provide payment plans. Amazing, right? I love the choice that I made, I learned more than what an internship could teach me. If you don’t want to go this route, I would recommend interning at a local business.  This will not only give you the experience that you need, you will also be mentored by someone that has been through the ups and the downs. Both are great, no matter what you choose.

Picking out a business name

If you want to become a business owner, you have to pick out a name! When picking it out, you want to make sure that the name is not already taken anywhere, you don’t want to get in trouble for being a copycat. After you have picked out that perfect name, you want to make sure that you keep it. You need to file for a fictitious business name, the price will vary depending on your state. Here in California, it was $35 and I paid $20 to publish Loving Plans in a local newspaper.

Bank account

You will need a place to keep all your money that you earn from each job. The easiest way to go is to open a PayPal account. I love PayPal!

Build your vendor list 

A vendor list is important to have when you are building your clientele. When suggesting vendors to your clients, you want to make sure that you and your vendors have a great chemistry. If you don’t really know a DJ that well, and you tell your client that they are the best in town when they are not, that is going to fall back on you with a bad review. And no one wants a bad review when they are just starting out their business. So hit those bridal shows or business mixers and build that list!

Marketing

Time to create your website, social media, and business cards. Your website is a place where people can view your work, check out your prices, and leave reviews. You can share all of that on your social media, and we all know that marketing is basically social media anyway. Leave a business card wherever you go! This would also be a great time to be at a local bridal show, rent a booth and get your name out there!

Make that money!  

All that is left to do now is start making that money! Even if you have to work on tips alone just go gain some business, do it. It will be all worth it in the end, trust and believe.

I hope that this post was in any way helpful for you. Please feel free to share this on all of your social media and leave a comment! I will talk to you in the next blog post. Remember to stay confident. 

5 NEED TO KNOW TRAVEL HACKS

I want to eventually make memories all over the world. Especially in Georgia watching my little brother graduate from Army boot camp. By the time that you are reading this blog post, I am getting my shit together to get on a plane and fly out of state. If you have a trip coming up soon, this post is for you. As you can see from the title, I am sharing five need to know travel hacks to make your trip easier.

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5. Booking a flight

When booking a flight, for some reason all flights are cheaper on Tuesday’s.

4. Shoes 

To keep the rest of your clothes getting dirty from your shoes, put your shoes in a shower cap. This will keep all of the dirt inside of the shower cap and your clothes clean!

3. Jewelry 

We all know that packing jewelry can be a pain in the ass, so to keep your necklaces from tangling up, lay them out on a sheet of Glad press n’ seal. Once all laid out, place another sheet on top, seal them together and your jewelry isn’t going anywhere.

2. Separate your clean and dirty clothes

Pack a trash back in your suitcase so that you keep your clean and dirty clothes separate.

1. Hot tools

Pack an oven mitt so that you can throw your curling iron or straighter in it while it is still hot!

Aren’t you glad that you read this? I helped you, right?

I hope that this post helped you in one way or another.

 

Safe Travels.

Product Review: Rodan +FIELDS & GIVEAWAY!

If you don’t already know, the key to good makeup application is great skin. Your face is a canvas, if you have the right tools, your painting will come out flawless. For today’s Makeup Monday I have a Rodan +FIELDS product review and giveaway. My friend Laura and I will be giving away 5 mini facials, so stay tuned!

In order to figure out what kind of treatment I needed, Laura, sent me a solution tool so that she could send over the proper samples!

I received the travel sized version of the Reverse Brightening Regiment.

The travel size comes with four steps:

  • Deep exfoliating wash
  • Intensive brightening toner
  • Dual active brightening complex
  • Broad spectrum SPF 50+ sunscreen

Bonus:

Microdermabrasion Paste

Being someone that wears a lot of makeup, I need that intense exfoliating feel, so that I know my skin is being cleaned. I am also someone that has a lot of discoloration and some dark spots. The toner and brightening complex will help to reduce those problems. We all need SPF in our lives, it is the most important part of skin care!

My first thought when I received the products in the mail is that the travel size has a pretty fair amount of product. I love the simple yet bold packaging. The white makes the products look clean, while the yellow is bright, in your face, and refreshing.

Deep exfoliating wash:

While testing out the deep exfoliant wash, the smell was incredible, I am a sucker for an orange scent, and that is exactly what I got! I received the deep exfoliate feeling just as promised, it really made me feel like I got every inch of makeup off of my face. A clean face is a happy one!

Intensive Brightening Toner:

This toner has a tingling effect, which I love, that helps me to know that the product is actually working and cleansing!

Dual active brightening complex:

This contains retinol to help keep the pesky breakouts away. It feels so soothing and applies so smoothly.

Broad spectrum SPF 50+ sunscreen:

This sunscreen is a thick consistency, it has a hint of a sunscreen smell, but not too overpowering. SPF is a great product to have on under your makeup. The sun ages you, protect the skin!

All in all, I would rate Rodan + FIELDS products a 5/5. Trust me when I say that you need it in your life.

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Some fun facts to know about Rodan +FIELDS :

  • R+F is the #1 skincare brand across all price points developed by the doctors who created Proactiv
  • They target four main skin concerns: sensitive skin issues, sun damage/hyper pigmentation, acne, and anti-aging.
  • All products come with a 60-day empty bottle, money back guarantees.
  • All products are clinically proven and result driven.

Giveaway time!! 🎉🎉

5 mini facials will be given away! To enter you must:

  1. Follow this blog
  2. Follow my Instagram
  3. Follow Laura on Instagram

I will be contacting the winners on Instagram.

This giveaway will run for one week! So tell your friends, tell your family! I will be giving away 5 mini facials. 

GIVEAWAY products will include: Redefine Daily Cleansing Mask: This creamy, Kaolin clay-based cleansing mask dries quickly, drawing impurities from your pores without robbing your skin of essential moisture. This environmentally safe, finely granulated exfoliator also gently smooths out the skin and releases a skin conditioner for younger-looking, younger-feeling skin.

  • Redefine Night Renewing Serum: Contains a proprietary blend of powerful peptides and Retinol to visibly improve skin texture and brighten skin. Our time-release technology keeps this anti-aging serum working all night long to reduce the appearance of wrinkles and pores for firmer, younger-looking skin.
  • Redefine Lip Renewing Serum: Maintain fuller, younger-looking lips with REDEFINE™ Lip Renewing Serum. Rich with peptides and vitamin E, this unique serum helps lips retain their natural moisture, visibly smooths lip texture and reduces the appearance of lip wrinkles.
  • Micro-Dermabrasion Paste: a high-glide, oil-free formula designed to help promote maximum gentle exfoliation and leave your skin feeling more smooth.

For personalized skin consultations, contact Laura @lookinluminouswithlaura.